This is Lexi ready for church looking so nice and innocent until it is time to go to nursery! The last two weeks Lexi puts a death grip on Jaron or me once we enter the room. She doesn't care about the other kids or the abundant amount of toys scattered about the room. The first couple of weeks she loved it and could have cared less about mom or dad, but something changed and now we get lots of tears and screams when we try to leave. I don't know if we should stay in there for a few weeks or what!? I don't want to punish the poor nursery workers! Anyone have any suggestions?
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You know, our kids have it easy because there's two of them (so I think they always have "the backup" in case they get scared in nursery or feel unfamiliar, but when we moved into our new ward, I was really impressed with the Nursery because they always do at least 1 in house visit so that the child feels really comfortable with her. So maybe just invite the nursery over some afternoon with the intention to just play and hangout. Our nursery leader said that she has to visit some kids like 3-4 times before they'll let their parents leave them in nursery without a big fuss.
Another thing they gave us was a CD of the nursery songs that they sing-- so the kids can learn them at home and not feel so clueless when it comes to singing time and everyone else knows the songs. So you might need to ask if there are some specifics you can work on with her at home. Good luck! She still looks adorable!
I know from experience and from David being in there now. Sometimes you just have let them cry and I promise after a few minutes they are fine. When the parents stay in there sometimes it harder on the workers. You can always come and have her get comfortable with David outside of nursery, that might help. Good Luck and remember it's always harder on the parents then the child.
I think just be consistent with your preparing her and saying goodbye. I think walking away and leaving them is best. I know it stinks and it is so hard!!! I think the nursery workers should know that too....hopefully. Most kids who cry and throw fits, it takes at least 3-4 weeks to get them comfortable. They might cry ALOT the first two weeks too. In my experience, if a parent stays in the nursery with the child, it is a LOT longer process to get them comfortable alone. BUT Britney...you are her mom and you know her best. Get people's advice, but you should go with your own gut!
When me and Ben were nursery leaders, we had one little boy who cried so hard and so long whenever his dad left. Sometimes, he'd cry the entire time no matter what we did, and we felt so bad for him. But we finally found a good solution: we had his dad come in and sit in the corner (he usually brought a chuch magazine so he wasn't bored), but he would try to interact with his son as little as possible. And when the boy wasn't looking, he'd sometime sneak out. After a few weeks, the little boy was doing so good in nursery!
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